Dogs will be just fine. Herpes won't shorten your life. Well, of course it can lead to HIV or worse, HIV if you just let it. Herpes is a curable disease. So, don't worry about it much. You are not alone facing this problem. There are thousands and millions of people living with it. I'm sure you're gonna be fine.
To be clear it won't lead to HIV but makes transmission "easier". When you have open sores studies have shown that it increases your chance of infection when in contact with the virus.
You will need to be exposed to HIV for any chance at all of becoming infected.